My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience, but let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing. (James 1:2-4 NKJV).
I have been a Christian most of my life. And I am thankful that I can say that there are very few decisions that I have made in my life that I regret. This does not mean that in all my deciding I always heard a clear, direct Word from God. Some decisions were made from what we (Christians) call a sensing, a knowing, a confirmation, a leading, coming to a place of peace . . . etc. These are just some of our many Christian lingos that all mean the same thing: I got a “go ahead” from God.
Now I do not want to give the impression, that I always made good decisions — because some of my decisions were made out of my “unruly” emotions, my “carnal” flesh and if I could just be honest —“my struggling with unbelief.” And of course, the fruit of unbelief is never good. Unbelief always causes pain. Even if it’s the pain from thinking that nothing in the broken relationship that you are in is going to change or thinking that you will never be healed of your own brokenness from the relationship’s problems.
Also, I do not want to give the impression that I have always lived without regretful decisions. Because, there have been seasons where I chose to “do what was right” and I got knocked down. And in some seasons, I voluntarily sat myself down to ponder whether “doing what was right” in a relationship, (where you see no reciprocation) was even worth it. But nonetheless, after all my pondering and almost losing hope, I always got back up and made this decision: to believe God.
David said that he would have lost heart unless he had believed that he would see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living (Psalm 27:13 NKJV). To believe means to have faith. The Bible describes faith as being the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen (Hebrews 11:1 NKJV). So faith has the ability to take on a substance. It will take on strength and will cause you to rise up out of a dark place and see the light of God’s goodness (right where you live). Even when others are not doing good (or doing what’s right).
In your decision-making, you too may feel that you have a “go ahead” from God. Remember that He does not promise us that even these decisions will not cost us pain.
Beloved, do not think it strange concerning the fiery trials that which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened to you. But rejoice to the extent that you partake of Christ’s sufferings, that when His glory is revealed, you may also be glad with exceeding joy (1 Peter 4:12-13 NKJV).
Choosing to do what is right when we are tried will cause God’s glory to be revealed to others around us. And this revelation of His glory (and His goodness) will also bring us exceeding joy—in spite of the actions of others.
Dear God, please bring the many promises of your Word back to my remembrance—especially in the midst of my trials and when I am in pain. I surrender to the process of Your “perfect work” in me and help me not to begrudge the process. I trust You; You know everything that I am lacking. Give me the strength and grace that I need daily to choose what is right—no matter what I see others doing. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
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