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wayne clarkeHer children rise up and call her blessed;

Her husband also, and he praises her.

–Proverbs 31:28


If there is one word that I would use to describe my wife, Sheila, it would be the word “impassioned.” Being “impassioned” refers to someone having ardent love–characterized by intense emotion; having a fervent desire to change society. And anyone who comes in contact with Sheila can sense right away, her zest and fervor to help change lives for the better. I recall on many, many, occasions, Sheila provided ministry and counsel to those who were hurting. God used her through many of “their” hard places along their Journeys.

I myself have seen and experienced Sheila’s passion personally, during the 26 years we have been married. She draws you in with her infectious smile, and then before you know it, you are hooked. But her essence goes far beyond her beautiful smile–for when she speaks, the wisdom and heart of God can be heard and felt in her words. From day one of our union, she has endeavored to love me purely. And for this I am forever grateful.

There is one momentous lesson that I have learned as we have walked together on our Journey to the Promised Land. That is, there are no shortcuts to achieving healthy, fulfilling and satisfying relationships. Each step taken and every decision made has to be an intentional one. I have closely observed my wife as she has often-times chosen the difficult and painful road to reconciliation – but she took it nonetheless. And through this, God has developed principles and insights that were life-changing for our relationship.

I believe that as you read this book, “Can’t Shout It Out! You Have To Walk It Out!” and engage in its principles, you will sense the intense passion in which it was penned. It is also my hope that you will experience the same life-changing results as we have in your relationship.


Wayne S. Clarke,

Author’s husband

September 2010