Unforgiveness: If I were judge...

Scriptural Truths:

But God--so rich is He in His mercy!  Because of and in order to satisfy the great wonderfuland intense love with which He loved us.  Even when were dead (slain) by [our own]short--comings and trespasses.  He made us alive together in fellowship and in union with Christ;[He gave us the very life of Christ Himself, the same new life with which He quickened Him, for] it is by grace (His favor and mercy which you did not deserve) that you are saved (delivered from judgment and made partakers of Christ’s salvation).        -Ephesians 2:4-5 Amplified Version


Shall not the judge of all the earth do right (Gen. 18:25)?  If we were answering this question in response to some one else’s situation, we would probably quickly respond with definite assurance, “Yes, of course.”  We would do this because many of us say we believe that God is just and fair, but do we really believe that He will choose to “do right” in our situation?  

Sometimes when we are faced with some of the same difficult situations (and people) as those we have encouraged to trust God, we tend to hesitate when answering this question for ourselves. Nothing causes us hesitancy more when asking this question, than desiring immediate justice. But sometimes we – not only desire justice, we demand it.   When do we demand it?  We are making this demand to God when we refuse to forgive, because we don’t think it’s fair that we should have to before we receive justice or recompense.  We demand when it should happen, how it should happen and to whom it should happen. It’s like we’re saying to God, “I could be a better judge in this situation than you.” Everyone desires justice, but we must recognize that the human frailty of men and women sometimes makes it challenging to mete out true and fair justice.  We have to choose forgiveness and walk by faith believing that God, the true judge, is fair and just to all His children. The poem writer Edner said it best:

The best of judges on this earth

Aren’t always right or fair;

But God, the Righteous Judge of all,

Wrongs no one in His care.


Think of someone you have struggled with forgiving in the past or even presently.  After you do this, take time to fill in the blank to this statement.  “If I were judge, I would _____________.


Remember this, when we are having relationship problems, each party usually feels that the other is the one who is wrong.  How do you think the person you thought of in the Assignment section would answer the same question: “If I were judge, I would________________.”  Would your name fill their blank and what do you think would be their judgment of choice for you?  And what if God was like man?  What would your deserved judgment be?


Dear God, Please help me to forgive _______________.   Help me to forgive regardless of their response.   Help me to always admit and resolve my part in all my relationship conflicts and to trust your timing, your way and your will for me and my relationships.  I choose this because although Your ways and thoughts are not like mine, You can be trusted.  You have never failed me. But most of all, you have forgiven me for all my offenses and thank you for continually showing me undeserved mercy in your judgment toward me daily.   Amen                 


Have you ever struggled with unforgiveness?  If so, why do you think it was such a struggle? Please answer in our comment box below.


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